What They Don't Talk About When They Talk About Marriage

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What is homosexuality?  Homosexuality is a sexual or romantic attraction for people with the same sex.  The common terms for homosexual people are lesbian for females and gays for guys.  Same-sex marriage is opposed by so many people because it’s against traditional values of marriage.  But what is marriage?  Marriage is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws (wik14).  Some of the essential things in marriage are patience, commitment, love, honesty, and communication (Becker, 2011).  Gender and sex are not included.  

Common perception is that same-sex marriage disrespects ‘traditional and normal’ marriage because the marriage is done by two people who have the same sex.  Before you agree, you should ask yourself whether love is only limited by genders and sexes or not.  Besides, respecting marriage is not about who, but it is about how long and how strong.  A marriage that is done between opposite sexes doesn’t always respect ‘traditional and normal marriage’.  In 2011, Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries divorced after 72 days of their marriage.  That event is an ‘awesome’ example of respecting traditional and normal marriage because it shows how ‘strong’ their commitment and love.  So, ‘respecting traditional and normal marriage’ is a weak excuse because ‘normal’ people do not always respect marriage.

Some scientists have proved that sexual orientation arises in the womb (Dvorsky, 2012).  This means gays and lesbians can’t change themselves because they are born that way. Even if sexual orientation is a choice, it’s not okay to forbid people for getting married because their personal preferences and choices.  It is a form of discrimination  Just like religion, sexual orientation is a personal preference that won’t affect the society directly.  If you can choose your religion, why can you not choose your sexual orientation and the people you love?    

When there’s a wedding between a guy and a guy, what will you lose?  In what way that wedding will harm you?  “The only purpose for which power can be rightfully exercised over any member of a civilized community, against his will, is to prevent harm to others.” (Mill, 1859).  Marriage is not genocide or an act of terror.   This means, marriage won’t harm other so there’s no need to prevent same-sex marriage.
     

Religions and morality are created by humans.  So, the values and rules in religion and morality are not completely right or wrong.  Also, religion only applies for the followers.    If a country prohibits same-sex marriage by reason of religion, the country forces religion belief on everyone, includes those who don’t believe.  Therefore, the country violates one of human rights (Freedom of Religion).  Each religion has different rules and perspective, but the country should protect marriage equality.

The morality in society isn’t always right.  Remember back when American people think that a marriage between black people and white people is a taboo?  Now, you are seen as an idiot if you still think so.  The conclusion is, religion and morality are weak excuses to prohibit same-sex marriage.

In short, same-sex marriage should be legalized because it shows equality and it doesn’t harm other.  Marriages that are done by heterosexual couples don’t always respect the values in marriage.  The things that human create are not perfect, the same with religion and morality.  Furthermore, a religion only applies to the followers.  If we keep questioning the cons of gay marriage, we will see that the reasons are weak, illogical, and degrading humanity.  By supporting same-sex marriage, you are a human who has rationality and heart.

Sources:

Becker, Joshua [Online] // becomingminimalist.com. - 2011. - October 31, 2014. - http://www.becomingminimalist.com/8-essentials-for-a-successful-marriage/.

Dvorsky, George io9.com [Online]. - December 2012. - October 22, 2014. - http://io9.com/5967426/scientists-confirm-that-homosexuality-is-not-genetic--but-it-arises-in-the-womb.

Mill, John Stuart en.wikipedia.org [Online]. - October 2014. - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harm_principle.

wikipedia.org [Online]. - October 29, 2014. - en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage.